Bless your heart, DR Danise. I thought of you the other day -- there was an article about folks who take care of ill family members. It really stressed the importance of taking care of yourself (mentally and physically and emotionally). You love her, she knows that, and that's the most important thing...don't beat yourself up over all the rest (easy for me to say, I know, but be kind to yourself and take time for yourself, too).